The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out (your) WHY. – Mark Twain
WHAT IS YOUR WHY?
Business Theorist, Simon Sinek coined the phrase, “Start with WHY”. Watch Simon’s Ted talk, “Start with WHY”
WHY START WITH WHY?
When you know your WHY, your world begins to make more sense. You begin to see how your WHY drives the choices you make. Knowing your WHY gives others, including those who are in relationship and conflicts with you a deeper understanding of you and you of them. People connect deeper and faster when they connect with WHY you do what you do, with who you are and with what you believe. Your WHY lets others understand what you stand for. Knowing your WHY makes a BIG difference in Mediation and in reaching mediated outcomes and agreements.
WHERE IS YOUR WHY?
Your WHY is buried in the part of the brain where words don’t exist and so until we help you name it, you did not truly know it was there. The WHY discovery method is easy and light but most of all, very important to the mediation process. Your WHY lies in the limbic brain, the feeling brain, where your value system and your decision-maker is.
When you know your WHY, you realize your unique gift and you live with passion. You know why you do what you do, how you think, what you believe – your purpose in life. Your WHY is how you have always shown up, and it’s what people count on you for: It’s what you have always focused on and might even be what the other party has misunderstood that you cannot help being. When they realize you are just “being your WHY” -it changes the entire mediation process.
WHY IS THE WHYmediate? MEDIATION PROCESS SO EFFECTIVE?
in mediation, disputants often learn for the first time about the core of themselves and the other party – their spouse, their boss, their child, their employee. And that makes a big difference in the mediation process.